Kari Samuels: Empath essentials for positive energy - Do other people’s energies affect you?

Empath essentials for positive energy

Do other people’s energies affect you?

by Kari Samuels


You might be wondering how you can possibly stay positive around a negative person, or in a chaotic world.


If you are anything like me, you’re sensitive to other people’s energy. You can walk into a room and feel what’s been go on there. Or when you meet someone, you immediately know what they’re about.
This is a real gift, though it does have its challenges. For me, being sensitive to other people’s energy has been a lifelong lesson in boundaries and self-care. It always amazed me when people could be around anyone in any environment and remain undaunted.


I used to take things very personally. In fact, I took on other people’s energy as if it was my own!
Letting things, “roll off my back”, as others would encourage me to do, just wasn’t possible.

I’m an empath.

This means that I feel people’s emotions (and sometimes physical pain) as if they were my own. My guess is that you have some degree of this too. If you’ve ever struggled with any of the following, then you are most likely an empath too:

• over-giving
• feeling exhausted after being around groups
• being drained after you help others
• experiencing dramatic mood shifts
• wanting to please everyone
• compassion fatigue

If you weren’t hardwired to be sensitive to other people’s energy, you wouldn’t experience these things. Trying to brush things off or move on as if you don’t care is not how you roll!


Being an empath is a remarkable gift. You have emotional intelligence.

When channeled correctly, you have an intuitive awareness that guides you toward amazing opportunities. You have the ability to heal yourself and others.


If you’re unskilled about managing the energy you’re receiving, it can wreak havoc on your life.
In order to stay positive around other people, you must do the following:

Cleanse your aura every day

Your aura is interacting with other people’s energy. An empath’s aura is more porous than most people’s. Therefore you pick up energy like a sponge. If you keep absorbing energy without cleansing it from your aura, it will weigh you down and deplete you.


Make a conscious choice to bring light to your aura every day to wash away what doesn’t belong to you, and make your aura shiny and bright. Bringing light to your chakras can help heal them too.

Stay grounded in your body

A tree that is rooted firmly in the Earth is not blown away by storms. Similarly, a person who is rooted in their body can remain healthy and happy without getting emotionally uprooted by other people’s dramas. The more firmly your energy is grounded, the more easily you can remain healthy and secure.

Tune into your inner voice rather than others

Empaths tend to be people pleasers. In order to keep relationship harmony, empaths have a tendency to over-give and make choices based on other people’s happiness rather than their own. In time, it becomes more challenging to know what you want, because you’re making choices for other people instead.


A healthy solution is to focus on what you want before you think about how it affects everyone else. This isn’t selfish (although if you’re not used to it you might feel like it is).


As an empath, you can ultimately have more clarity about what’s right for the good of all by first knowing what’s right for you.

Be direct instead of nice

Once you have clarity about what’s you truly want and what’s best for you, you can communicate that clearly and directly with others.


You might feel as if you’ll rock the boat by doing this. Ultimately, when people are honest and direct, it’s more harmonious for everyone involved. People will appreciate the clarity and you’ll feel better knowing you’re being true to yourself.

Raise your vibration to love

Love is the strongest energy in the Universe.


If other people around you are fearful or negative, it can wear you down. However, if you are elevating YOUR energy to the frequency of love, it can lift up others around you instead.

You’ve got a gift for raising the vibration of the planet!

I’ve spent my life developing these skills. I know the power of harnessing my energy to benefit me and others, rather than deplete me.


Being aware of my own needs, feelings and energy is a daily practice, and one with infinitely positive results. I encourage you to take up this practice immediately and watch your world change from chaos to bliss.


If you’d like to know more about managing your energy so you can feel wonderful every day, I encourage you to take my tele-class, How to Stay Positive Around Negative People.  It can change your life forever.

Additional Resources for You:

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Eliza: On Being an Energy Sensitive in a Toxic World
| Blue Dragon Journal

Posted on April 12, 2015

Eliza: On Being an Energy Sensitive in a Toxic World


Yesterday, I visited an old Western town with a friend. While on the surface, this seems an innocent enough occasion, I came home feeling exhausted and ill.


I actually felt quite comfortable and happy during the trip, but got tired towards the latter portion of it, when some hitherto hidden emotions started coming up, that had existed silently between my friend and me for a long time.


As an energy sensitive, I probably started to draw this person’s emotions and feelings into my own body for the sake of keeping things on an even keel. It is a role that we have been taught, consciously or unconsciously, as sensitives through life in awkward, sometimes violent home lives. Being peaceful by nature, our unconscious motive was to soothe over irritating energies so we could survive. I did it as a child in my own family. I would venture a guess that many of my readers did this also.


It’s time to let go of this old role and to let those who are unable or unwilling to process their own c**p to do it themselves and to accept the consequences.


I feel that I’ve spent time working in the prison as I’ve been taught the necessity of having good energetic boundaries. This applies equally to the more subtle manipulations that people attempt on those who are empaths or sensitives within the population. You ARE known for who you are even if it is largely on an unconscious basis and energy leeches and vampires and off-loaders will attempt to use your energetic field as a garbage dump.


I share this information not to put people into fear, but to remind everyone that it is time to take responsibility for what you are putting out and what some people might be attempting to put on or over you.


As sensitive beings, we are naturally compassionate by nature and often wish to heal people, to make them (and us feel better). It’s time to release this need to nurture as it just serves to suppress or deny the real need for the release and transmutation of the old toxic energies. Yes, people may go through hell as their dark thought-forms and suppressed emotions begin to release from their cells, but that’s part of the preparation for waking up and setting the foundation for ascension. Without the necessary clearing done, which includes the release of all limiting belief systems (B.S.) the process of ascension cannot even begin.


Now whenever I feel an unusual energy or thought enter my awareness, I look at it and ask myself, “Is this me or someone else’s? Or is something going on in the world that I don’t know anything about?”


There is a lot going on that I don’t know, but we are ALL connected on inner levels, through the multidimensional Universe and can feel and communicate with each other in non-verbal fashion. We do it all the time without even thinking about it. Now is the time to become aware of what we are doing, to ourselves and to others when we think or act in a negative fashion towards any person or group. We are, in effect, broadcasting that negative thought or opinion against someone or something and end up reinforcing what we no longer wish to continue in our lives. We are giving our power away by hating, disliking or allowing ourselves to feel anger towards anything or anyone outside of our body.


Our consciousness is not limited to the physical edges of the body. As we awaken, new worlds and dimensions are revealed. In the early stages of awakening, this largely takes place in non-verbal messages, thoughts, visions and feelings being received from various sources. It is your responsibility to discern with your inner wisdom what resonates with you. There is no need to accept the word of any “authority” that exists outside your own heart center.


So, here I was feeling a real sense of grief rising up from my friend. I had a sense that we both knew that there would be no going forward with our relationship save as friends. And that’s okay, but difficult for a sensitive being that yearns for warmth and companionship.


I’ve recognized that I am not currently looking for a partner, being fully intent in bringing my own ascension process forward. While I may be awake, I have yet to feel the ecstasy that is spoken of with awe and longing by those who have gone before me in this process.  And I am aware that at a certain point as the Light Body fully activates, this “bliss” becomes part of everyday existence.  I hope to join these forerunners soon, which means making great changes in my present life style and taking me out of my “comfort” zone to confront any remaining hidden connections and attachments that need to be released.


Stepping off the Wheel of Karma takes commitment, determination and intent. It also takes a one-pointed focus that doesn’t seek an outside savior or redeemer, but seeks within for the answers that one needs to proceed upon the path that lies before a mature soul.


It’s time to stop making excuses for our own lack of progress and to proceed, either with the assistance of a mentor or alone (with the aid of our Angelic companions) and unload all that we have succeeded in carrying for others, for our families and friends, for our co-workers and those who live in our community.


Our community is expanding as we grow in awareness. We are becoming galactic citizens and that takes mastery of the energies that arise from all directions. As we rise to meet our galactic neighbors in frequency, we also let go of the ballast that has kept our consciousness from re-ascending to where we came from… the Stars and being fully conscious multidimensional beings. Some times that means leaving those whom we love and care for behind so that we can make our journeys successfully. It may seem cruel to some, but there needs to be some who are willing to pioneer the path for others in this time of mass ascension.  And I made my choice a long time ago.


Stepping out and upward, I go; Namaste.


I AM Eliza


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