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Friday, October 25, 2019
Arcturian Group Message for OCTOBER 20, 2019 by Marilyn Raffaele | Oneness of All
Saturday, July 6, 2019
Friday, November 23, 2018
Sarah Varcas: 23rd November 2018: Full Moon in Gemini Let It All Go!
23rd November 2018: Full Moon in Gemini
Let It All Go!
By Sarah Varcas
The Moon is full in Gemini at 5:40 a.m. UT on 23rd November. A Gemini Moon is rarely predictable. Interested in this and then that, it casts aside one thing in favour of the next, then the next. It’s great at talking about plans, less so at implementing them. It will express feelings but fail to process them, creating knee-jerk reactivity to life rarely explored deeply enough to change. On the other hand, Gemini Moon can swiftly assess a situation, take note of relevant data and cast aside the rest to move on better informed and more effective. At this full moon we can embody this more efficient side of Gemini or the scattered and reactive one. Either is available, but the latter may wreak more havoc than we care to encounter right now! And remember, even adaptability can be a liability if what we need is forbearance while old patterns fall away. It’s great to be able to change with the wind when necessary, but if flexibility serves only to avoid the risk of commitment it’s just another way to deny life’s fullness by living in half-light.
With Mercury – the ruler of Gemini – currently retrograde, this moon encourages us to consider what and how we communicate and our aim in doing so. Do we censor ourselves to keep the peace or feel compelled to express an opinion on everything? Is passive aggression the name of our game, or are we forever seeking reassurance? Communication in all its forms is a deeply complex matter and this moon illuminates how it shapes our life. Be prepared to listen as well as talk. Remember communication is a two-way affair which takes attention and commitment, especially when the subject matter is challenging or the dynamic uncomfortable to bear.
This is the first of five full moons in the first degree of their zodiac sign, so between now and the end of March 2019 new beginnings will be hidden within endings, completion and loss. It may augur a parting of ways as opinions differ and paths diverge. In struggling to retain our connection with a familiar face, we may overlook the freedom of new directions for everyone. People come and go in life. It’s the nature of relationships – to shift and change, connect and then separate. Honouring the truth of a relationship by letting someone go with grace is as important as forging connections in the first place. With Venus having recently turned direct in Libra many relationships are undergoing a process of recalibration and this full moon supports those who know that times are changing and things simply cannot remain as they were.
A new start is within our grasp, wrapped up in the blanket of loss. People may be drifting from us, beliefs falling away, perceptions shifting. If this is you, let it all go. It is time. Pay attention to where change is overdue in your life and resolve to release the chains that bind you to the past. That every ending contains a new beginning isn’t just an age-old cliché but an abiding truth. This moon exhorts us to honour its wisdom and allow a conscious and open-hearted parting of the ways.
Sarah Varcas
Sunday, September 11, 2016
Wednesday, August 24, 2016
Love from the Other Side ~ a message from Selacia
Love from the Other Side
Loss is an intrinsic element of life, especially now. So much is
changing so fast that the very fabric of your life can look different
from day to day. Not all change is experienced as loss, of course, but
sometimes even the idea of another change can push your stress levels
over the edge.
Our ascension into higher consciousness means that much must fall away - ways of being, old methods for communicating, and nonfunctional paradigms within relationships.
All of it can tug at your heart and create worry within your mind about your present and future. Perhaps the most devastating loss to cope with, however, is that of a loved one.
Coping with Loss of Loved Ones
Advance Grieving
- Grief over loss of a loved one is one of the most challenging
experiences you can have. Grief in fact can occur even before a beloved
person or pet dies. This is advance grieving, a kind of anticipatory
grieving and part of the overall cycle of grief. For your personal
spiritual transformation, you will want to honor this stage and work
through things as they come up. This advance healing preparation will
help you later on, at the moment of passing and well beyond.
Death of Loved Ones - The actual death of a being you love can sometimes be anticipated, but you can never know in advance exactly how you will feel and respond. Even with advance notice, you can feel shock and a kind of disassociation with reality as you process the passing.
While death is as natural as birth - impermanence being the nature of all things - in our modern society there is much fear, denial, and ignorance about death. A time is coming in humanity's awakening when people will house the consciousness to move through the death process of someone in a present way - having made peace and feeling complete with the relationship.
Oftentimes in my healing practice how people first come to me relates to the passing or anticipated passing of a beloved person or pet. If it's about anticipated passing, the person wants insights and healing to cope with the heart-wrenching situation. Sometimes they want specific help for the loved one near death, too, helping to ease the pain and prepare for the transition. If it's after the passing, the person wants to know the loved one is okay and to have communications with him or her on the other side. It is quite comforting for people to learn more about circumstances of the death and to be able to telepathically communicate beyond the veil to better understand the gifts of the relationship. This helps with letting go and is validating.
Anniversary of Passing - It's common, even years after a loved one has passed, to feel deep sadness on the anniversary of his or her death. This feeling is something to be honored, for you are honoring both the being and your relationship. Also keep this in mind: other side communications with your loved one have no expiration date. Telepathic communication beyond the veil is timeless and easily facilitated years or even decades after passing.
Love from the Other Side
As I wrote on social media this past week, the process of grieving can be quite challenging.
When someone you love passes, it can feel like you have a hole in your heart. Honor how you feel. Know, too, that you never lose them for love connects you heart-to-heart across time and dimensions. Love is the eternal bond. Love is forever.
Our ascension into higher consciousness means that much must fall away - ways of being, old methods for communicating, and nonfunctional paradigms within relationships.
All of it can tug at your heart and create worry within your mind about your present and future. Perhaps the most devastating loss to cope with, however, is that of a loved one.
Coping with Loss of Loved Ones
Advance Grieving
- Grief over loss of a loved one is one of the most challenging
experiences you can have. Grief in fact can occur even before a beloved
person or pet dies. This is advance grieving, a kind of anticipatory
grieving and part of the overall cycle of grief. For your personal
spiritual transformation, you will want to honor this stage and work
through things as they come up. This advance healing preparation will
help you later on, at the moment of passing and well beyond.Death of Loved Ones - The actual death of a being you love can sometimes be anticipated, but you can never know in advance exactly how you will feel and respond. Even with advance notice, you can feel shock and a kind of disassociation with reality as you process the passing.
While death is as natural as birth - impermanence being the nature of all things - in our modern society there is much fear, denial, and ignorance about death. A time is coming in humanity's awakening when people will house the consciousness to move through the death process of someone in a present way - having made peace and feeling complete with the relationship.
Oftentimes in my healing practice how people first come to me relates to the passing or anticipated passing of a beloved person or pet. If it's about anticipated passing, the person wants insights and healing to cope with the heart-wrenching situation. Sometimes they want specific help for the loved one near death, too, helping to ease the pain and prepare for the transition. If it's after the passing, the person wants to know the loved one is okay and to have communications with him or her on the other side. It is quite comforting for people to learn more about circumstances of the death and to be able to telepathically communicate beyond the veil to better understand the gifts of the relationship. This helps with letting go and is validating.
Anniversary of Passing - It's common, even years after a loved one has passed, to feel deep sadness on the anniversary of his or her death. This feeling is something to be honored, for you are honoring both the being and your relationship. Also keep this in mind: other side communications with your loved one have no expiration date. Telepathic communication beyond the veil is timeless and easily facilitated years or even decades after passing.
Love from the Other Side
As I wrote on social media this past week, the process of grieving can be quite challenging.
When someone you love passes, it can feel like you have a hole in your heart. Honor how you feel. Know, too, that you never lose them for love connects you heart-to-heart across time and dimensions. Love is the eternal bond. Love is forever.
Copyright 2016 by Selacia - author of Earth’s Pivotal Years, healer, and teacher * All Rights Reserved * www.Selacia.com
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Monday, March 2, 2015
ONENESS OF ALL: Arcturian Group Message by Marilyn Raffaele ~ MARCH 1, 2015
ONENESS OF ALL: Arcturian Group Message
by Marilyn Raffaele ~ MARCH 1, 2015
We come with greetings of love and grace to assist all who seek change and deeper awareness. We observe that many have already accomplished this; you have done the work and are beginning to see the fruitage of that work.
As Gaia lifts into ever higher dimensional levels, many are beginning to more easily experience and integrate the deeper truths. Concepts previously taken for granted as being truth, have become no longer acceptable to ever increasing numbers of people. Some holding positions of leadership or fame who comfortably spewed lies or acted in ways to enhance their own power, authority, wealth, and self aggrandizement, are being exposed. This is happening because so many have begun to listen to and act upon their intuition instead of simply accepting "bought and paid for" sources of information. You are awakening from the dream.
Always listen to your intuition dear ones. Even if at first you are unable to fully trust, make a mental note of what you receive. Intuitive guidance and knowledge comes from soul, it is you, and will guide you through every situation of every day if you acknowledge and allow it. As you evolve and begin to trust more deeply in your own Divine nature, intuition will simply become ordinary, no longer needing to be practiced.
The world in general has been trained lifetime after lifetime to look outside of itself for answers, guidance, and happiness which makes perfect sense in a world of duality and separation, for most did not realize there was anywhere else to look. However, since duality automatically manifests as pairs of opposites, the results of looking to the outer are sometimes good, and sometimes not so good.
Most of you are no longer of this energy, you have "graduated" and come to know that the outer things are interpretations of consciousness. Mind is the substance of matter. In third dimensional consciousness, the outer is most often formed through human effort--matter manipulated to make it work. However, because there is no law supporting man made forms, there is nothing to hold them in place-- a lesson many are painfully learning at this time.
Those who have always achieved exactly what they desired regardless of any harm it may of caused other humans or Gaia, are now finding or soon will find that these manipulative ways no longer work, this type of energy is dissolving. Many who presently sit comfortably on thrones made of ego and self importance will discover that they sit within castles made of sand.
The new and higher resonating energies do not eliminate wealth or power but serve to lift it into higher forms. Abundance is a quality of the Divine, ever present already within every individual and held infinitely in place by Divine Law. The higher consciousness of abundance in all its forms flows easily and infinitely as oneness, love, and service--never a tool for personal selfishness. There is nothing evil or wrong about financial abundance. Like all other qualities of the Divine, through the belief in two powers, abundance has been misinterpreted and thus manifests in the world as either too much or too little. Remember, you are powerful beings, your thoughts and words create, and each time you say; "I don't have.", mind interprets that and forms it in your outer experience.
Arcturian Group wishes to discuss change. We observe many who retreat into fear and resistance whenever the familiar dissolves or changes. When old forms dissolve, know that the Divine idea behind the form is still present. Divine Ideas are changeless and are held forever in place by Divine Law. Because of this, newer and better forms of every Divine Idea take the place of that which dissolves--if you allow it.
Example: At one point the Divine idea of Omnipresence was interpreted in human consciousness as walking, then evolved to riding horses, then to horses pulling sleds or carriages. Then came the model T and all that has followed it--Omnipresence manifesting as jet planes, elegant automobiles, and fast rails, and it does not end there, there is no end. Divine ideas never change, what the world lives and sees depends upon how these ideas are interpreted according to the consensus consciousness or individuals. This is what you are lifting into more Light.
There are those who still base their sense of self in whatever perceived qualities of value they have--how beautiful they are, how much money they make, or how fashionably they dress . This is seen in the mindless worship and imitation of the rich and famous. Individuals drawn to imitation are not yet awake to their own Divine Nature, and so have no real sense of self worth. This state of consciousness frequently lashes out through violence because the individual feels left out, unworthy, and rejected. They are frequently are drawn to positions of authority where they are able to act out legally.
Some with a consciousness of unworthiness simply choose to suffer silently, but their energy field often attracts those of a "bully" state of consciousness because both carry the same energy of unworthiness--like energy attracts like energy. Bullying cannot be solved by punishment, but by the attainment of a sense of worth within the individual. These types of issues are usually carried from past life experiences and need to be cleared at their root, not with medication but with truth.
Many fear the loss of themselves in the process of evolution. Over lifetimes of infinite experience as human beings, every person develops a personal sense of self and is usually ready to defend it at all costs. When an individual begins to realize that he must move beyond many of the very qualities he believes to be who he is, he panics. This can be a terrifying experience especially for strong personalities and is the point at which some choose to end their spiritual quest.
Your claim to fame, your personality--you, must be surrendered in order to evolve?? Surely not! What will be left? Nothing? It is at this point that many strong, powerful, and outgoing individuals begin to visualize the holy cards nuns handed out to school children--men and women with eyes raised and hands folded--booooring. Nah!
Never fear losing anything real dear ones, for you only ever release and leave behind that false sense of self you have been entertaining about who and what you are. Nothing real can ever be lost. You will discover that you are still you, now empowered in higher ways of seeing and being as the real aspects of you become stronger and more enhanced. You are becoming a new and improved version.
As evolved individuals, you will continue to live and move and be in the world, but be much less touched by it. You will find yourselves able to enter the fray of work, home, or play, and not be tempted to enter into it. There is no longer anything for lower resonating energies to attach to for your energy field is now of a higher resonance.
This is Lightwork dear ones. You came to awaken, evolve, and then help those struggling to do the same. Forget any dreams you may of had about ascending and then sitting back comfortably as an observer for the rest of your time on earth, or skipping off to a quiet convent or monastery. No, any Light you attain is not only for you, but for the world in whatever ways or places you may find yourselves.
Many of you are beginning to experience all sorts of odd situations because you have become carriers of Light--Light workers. Do not be surprised or put off by the experiences that may start to come your way, for you will be drawn to where you are needed and those who need you (not want) will be drawn to you. As Lightworkers you will soon find that any old concepts you may still hold of "proper, dignified, or correct" go out the window but at the same time you will discover in this work a love for mankind that you did not know you were capable of. Lightwork dear ones, consists of being the Light in whatever form it is needed. It goes with you wherever you go because it is you.
If you have been in some difficult situation (home, work, relationship) you will start to notice that it is unable to affect you as it once did simply because you no longer resonate with that energy or give it power. This often represents a completion of some sort and is usually part of one's soul contract. Spiritual resolution of some old karmic issue gives an individual freedom to leave the situation, or even find himself somehow removed from it. However, there are times in which these situations are a person's chosen Lightwork, that is to simply to remain and be the Light. Always ask for Guidance and trust your intuition.
Soon you are going to be seeing more and more change that you will recognize as spiritual. Up to this point you have all wondered when you will see some proof that all the evolutionary ideas are real. Do not expect changes to appear as explosions dear ones, but seek intuitively behind the headlines, and on the faces and in the words of those around you. Examine how you feel about what is going on in the world today versus a year or two ago.
Much of the violence in the Middle East is very old, ancient energy that must be cleared and played out in order for Gaia to clear herself. Your focus must be on spiritual growth and awareness and then the living of it, for you have nothing to offer the world if you remain in the same old universal belief system.
If you are clearing old energies and resolving old karmic situations, allow the process but do not get so enmeshed in them that you spend the rest of your life laying on a couch declaring that you can do nothing because you are clearing. If you are guided toward some action, do it. If you are guided to be silent and hold the energy of Light for some world situation or person, do it. It is a new time in which old solutions and rules no longer work so it is fruitless to keep trying to make them work.
In this new time and new energy, rejoice dear ones for you are very close to seeing a new earth.
We are the Arcturian Group 3/1/15
http://www.onenessofall.com
Sunday, November 2, 2014
November 2014 Astro-Energy Report Inside Out Change ~ by Sarah Varcas
My report for October highlighted the need for patience with life’s challenges and a willingness to make space for woundedness – our own and that of others- without having to jump in and ‘make things right’. This compassionate patience – holding a safe space of acceptance in the face of pain and a willingness to acknowledge and not turn away from suffering – was a potent force last month and all efforts made to patiently co-exist with difficult feelings, challenging circumstances and those difficult to bear aspects of ourselves and others, begin to pay-off in November as Pluto aligns with Uranus and Chiron for a relationship which continues until February 2015. This alignment points a way through challenges and out the other side. It invites us to actively engage with any areas of struggle in our lives now – the time of patient waiting is over – and to do so with a wholehearted commitment to living the questions, challenges and conflicts which confront us. The more willing we are to do this the more we will recognise just how much we set ourselves up for difficulties simply by failing to recognise the truth when we see it, be it the truth about ourselves, other people, or the very nature of life itself.
Truth is a major theme this month. Whilst for those on a journey of awakening the discernment of truth is always prevalent, the nature of truth is changing now and there are fresh truths & perspectives to be gleaned. If you feel your spiritual practice is letting you down, or you’re just not inspired like you once were, if you’re having to face recurring problems in your life, aspects of yourself, which you thought were long gone and are wondering whether you’ve really changed at all, this month holds promise of fresh perspectives and new opportunities to step back into the flow of life with renewed faith and focus. Pluto, Chiron and Uranus are clearing the path ahead to support those who choose to walk it. It won’t all be sprouting roses, and some of it’s up hill, but with these three formidable companions we have great strength and wisdom at our side.
Which isn’t to say we can just chuck patience out of the window though! We still need it, towards ourselves and other people. And perhaps most importantly, towards the evolutionary process of conscious awakening occurring on this planet, to which each one of us contributes every minute of every day. We may find ourselves, this month, in the midst of very familiar circumstances, experiencing very familiar responses, except this time we can readily choose a new way to act rather than repeat old habits and patterns which have gotten us nowhere fast. The deepest changes at this time are not those which can be measured in physical and material terms but in terms of attitude and understanding. When we can see a familiar situation through completely new eyes, perceiving heretofore hidden dynamics and truths, we are deep within the process of transformation, no matter how things look from the outside. Shifts in circumstance are the icing on the cake, but it is the inner changes which truly matter: new truths perceived, old perceptions released, a willingness to follow one’s heart no matter how misaligned it seems with everyone around you! These are the shifts highlighted for the coming month – an internal re-ordering which will bear external fruit in due course (hence the need for patience!).
These fresh energies, triggered by Pluto at the beginning of the month, bed in for the first week of November. We may find ourselves on something of a see-saw, up one minute down the next. That’s okay. We’re finding our feet in a new terrain which can take time. Come the Full Moon in Taurus on 6th/7th November we run the risk of rejecting the invitation to jump in and see life through fresh eyes, preferring instead to stay put and do things the old way…. Whilst still complaining, of course, about how life isn’t fair and nothing ever changes! Best we don’t tumble into this trap! There are many opportunities in the coming weeks to embrace significant shifts in understanding and experience. It would be a monumental waste to forego them simply for the familiarity of tired wounds, old pain and the apparent safety of ‘victim consciousness’. No matter how unfair life appears to be, no matter how hard we have struggled to change with no change happening, this month offers countless opportunities to do things differently if we are willing to take responsibility for our future, even when the state of our past has seemed completely beyond our influence.
Mercury helps out from 8th to 11th November, returning to Scorpio after its retrograde journey through Libra, crossing the degree of the recent solar eclipse (23rd/24th October) as it does so, then traversing the degree in which it turned retrograde at the beginning of October. If you’re wondering how to implement insights gained during the course of October, Mercury could well bring you the information and connections you need to do so. Its gift could be as straight forward as a few handy facts or as convoluted as insight into an aspect of your character you’ve just never really seen before, but whatever Mercury brings pay attention, even if it seems inconsequential, because pieces falling into place in the coming weeks will place information received now into a useful context.
A powerful backdrop to the first couple of weeks of November is formed by a conjunction between Mars and Pluto, peaking between 10th & 12th. This is something of a notorious combination with a pretty bad name, often indicative of aggressive and intimidating behaviour, a need to get one’s own way no matter the cost. We are not, however, obliged to embody the more destructive nature of this alliance. There is another way, not least because the Uranian planet Kronos opposes these two heavy weights, keeping them in check and reminding them (and us) that ‘might makes right’ is the old way. The true warrior of the burgeoning Aquarian Age is a warrior of the spirit who embodies fierce compassion for all of life, who occupies their heart not their head and who knows authentic power as that which enables truth to rise like a bubble to the surface, not that which suppresses truth in favour of egoic lies and authoritarian mind-sets. Mars, Pluto and Kronos invite us to become spiritual warriors now, to brandish the sword of unflinching truth and use it to break open the hardened ego into which the healing balm of insight and wisdom can be poured. And before we decide to use it on someone else they remind us to check our own ego in the mirror first! If we’re too focused on everyone around us and what they need to do to change, it’s time to look back at ourselves and see what’s really going on. What do we avoid in ourselves by pointing the finger at someone else? Pluto, Mars and Kronos hold us to account now, each and every one of us, demanding unflinching honesty about what and who we see when we look in the mirror. Honesty which will be rewarded many-fold when Uranus and Pluto form their next exact square in mid December.
16th November sees Neptune station direct followed by Chiron doing the same on 23rd, both having been retrograde for five months. Those with planets in Pisces in particular will begin to feel this subtle shift in the coming weeks, but we will all benefit from this change of direction. Neptune and Chiron in Pisces, both powerful forces of compassion and healing, have been unveiling those places within which need the most tender and patient care these past few months. The process has been a painful one for many, especially those with deep losses to face and grief to traverse. Open wounds around loss, separation and isolation can feel like an endless dark tunnel with not so much as a glimmer at the end. For those who have been in just such a space this year, the light is beginning to flicker, very gently, at the end of the track. And not at all before time! The broken pieces of lives shattered by loss are beginning to reanimate, even while the grief goes on. None of us are immune to loss. It is an unavoidable part of life, but these past few months have especially lain bare the impact of just such experiences. As Neptune and Chiron begin a forward journey once more they lead each and every one of us toward a deeper appreciation of life and love in the face of loss, of the preciousness of what we have in the present moment and the joy available when we can fully appreciate the blessings of the now.
The Sun enters Sagittarius on 22nd November followed hot on its heels by a New Moon which reawakens the issue of patience and its role on the path of conscious evolution. This Moon speaks to our inherent desire to ‘solve’ life. Against a backdrop of centuries during which the mind has been deified and the spirit increasingly ignored, if we can’t come up with an answer to a problem we can end up feeling hopeless, ineffective, a failure. The ability to apply logic to life and make it better as a result has been the standard against which so much has been measured. This standard is shifting now. Tired logic won’t cut it in the burgeoning astrological Age of Aquarius ruled by Uranus who couldn’t think ‘in the box’ even if its life depended upon it! We must be open to a new way now, to challenges which demand illogical responses: hope in the face of despair, love in the face of aggression, wisdom in the face of ignorance, and most importantly of all for this New Moon, patience in the face of not knowing what the heck to do about something! Because nothing will curtail progress faster than pre-empting a deeper and more enduring solution with a quicker more convenient one. So if this New Moon brings us conundrums that leave us itching to sort them out, we’d best wait up for a while because there’s more to discover before we take action and more wisdom to be gleaned before we move on to the next thing!
And glean it we will, now that the Sun is in Sagittarius until 21st/22nd December, welcomed there by a square between Mercury and Jupiter which assists us in discovering with both the mind and the heart how different the world could be if we ourselves decide to live in it differently. For this is the essence of change: from the inside out, rebirthing our minds and hearts in order for the world itself to change, not the other way around. Throughout the final week of November a square between the Sun and Neptune once again challenges us to embrace new perspectives, fresh truths. We cannot experience change from the application of old truths now out-dated. It is only the timeless truths which can really transform and until we are living them we are forever trapped in someone else’s ideas of how life should be, even if we now call them our own. A sacrifice is called for: of who we thought we were, of old truths adopted from someone else’s life, of beliefs that no longer hold water in the face of rapid evolutionary change. A sacrifice, that is, of anything and everything which has overlaid our core self, to bolster identity and give us substance where once we felt empty and incomplete. Of everything to which we have clung, at first to save us from the emptiness, but which eventually simply anchors us to a past self no longer vibrant and alive.
To bring the month to a close, the Quarter Moon in Aries on 29th November reminds us there is no destination on this journey, no matter how much we may perceive there to be. That was the old way: do this and you’ll live happily ever after in a life filled with success and everything you could possibly dream. The new way says this: ‘you can’t even begin to imagine what’s possible so don’t bother trying! Simply live, present to the moment, follow the clues, listen to the wisdom whispered on the breath of life every day’. In doing so we will know what to do, who to be, and we will know when to stop being and doing and move on again. The freedom which arises when we live in this way reveals that the letting-go was no sacrifice at all but simply a return to our true self, there all along but hidden beneath the shell of identity, hardened to resist the fact that nothing to which we cling is true and only now is real.
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Sarah Varcas
tags: astrology of November 2014, inner change, letting go, clinging, truth & discernment, Pluto in Capricorn, Uranus in Aries, Uranus square Pluto, Full Moon in Taurus, New Moon in Sagittarius, Sun in Sagittarius, Mars conjunct Pluto, Mars in Capricorn, Neptune direct, Chiron direct, Neptune in Pisces, Chiron in Pisces
Monday, August 11, 2014
OM Times: Responding to Losses by Carl Greer, PhD, PsyD
OM Times: Responding to Losses
by Carl Greer, PhD, PsyD
How much of your story involves dealing with losses? As you get older, you find that you and more and more of your friends are suffering losses. Yet at any point in life, a person can experience a devastating loss or even series of losses. Losses can involve actual deaths or be like deaths: for example, the ending of a job or relationship, or suffering a mental or physical illness can be a devastating blow. A transition, even if eagerly anticipated, can feel like a loss in some ways. Events such as retirement, a move to a new city, or having your last child move out, often bring deeply mixed emotions.
Shamans say that all endings lead to beginnings, and we must learn to work with the energy of endings to ensure that we do not get stuck in what is already dying and keep ourselves from experiencing what is being born. To better cope with losses and transitions, we need to change our attitude toward them. If we’re in touch with our eternal essence and the waxing and waning of all aspects of our lives, the birthing and the dying, we can move beyond bitterness about things not staying as we want. Then we will find it easier to accept “what is,” realizing the many blessings that we still have despite what we have lost.
Change is inevitable. If we remember that, we won’t be as shocked and upset as we might otherwise be when it occurs. We can adapt and be resilient. Life goes on, even if we experience it very differently than we did before.
How do you respond when someone you know has a loss or major transition? Is your response heartfelt or perfunctory? Does your own fear of loss get in the way with your being fully present with the person who is upset over a loss? After saying what you think is the right thing, how quickly do you get back into focusing on your own life, forgetting the pain or the suffering that someone who might be close to you is going through?
Some people resist staying connected to others who have experienced loss because they fear for their own difficulty in returning to a positive, optimistic state. Their mind turns to the losses they might suffer, too. Their fear of endings and the uncertainty of what will replace what has been lost can frighten them. Do you become deeply discombobulated after hearing of another’s loss because you are especially empathetic, or because you start to fear what you might lose?
Think about when you experience a big loss of your own. How quickly do you get back into your own life and routines? How much time do you allow yourself to grieve? After a significant loss, do you find it hard to remain in the present moment and see a hopeful future? How could you step back from your pain and still honor the memory of whomever or whatever was lost, and start living again? Could you create a ritual or ceremony to help you deal with your loss?
You might create a fire ceremony that can help you release the energy of grief and open you to new energies. One way to do a fire ceremony is to use a candle flame or a fire in a fireplace or outdoors and some sticks you can burn. Blow into a stick the energy of what you would like to release from yourself and your energy field, such as sadness. Then, place the stick into the fire. Next, pick up another stick and blow into it something you want to gain, such as an openness to new possibilities—happiness, inner peace, or a new relationship, for example. Then, burn that stick, exchanging the old energy for the new. Afterward, take some time to observe any changes in how you feel, and how you felt during the ritual itself. Consider writing about the experience in your journal, and repeating the ceremony if you feel you want to release more grief, or release other energies associated with your loss, such as anger or fear. Use the ceremony to bring in energies such as hope, happiness, and courage, all of which can help you to step out of the old story of loss and write a new one.
About the Author
Carl Greer, PhD, PsyD is a practicing clinical psychologist, Jungian analyst, and shamanic practitioner. His shamanic work is drawn from a mix of North American and South American indigenous traditions and is influenced by Jungian analytic psychology. He has worked or trained with shamans on five continents and trained at Dr. Alberto Villoldo’s Healing the Light Body School, where he has taught. Carl Greer is involved in various businesses and charities, teaches at the Jung Institute in Chicago, is on the staff of the Lorene Replogle Counseling Center, and holds workshops on shamanic topics. He is the author of the new book Change Your Story, Change Your Life: Using Shamanic and Jungian Tools to Achieve Personal Transformation by Carl Greer © 2014, Findhorn Press. Now available at: Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com
Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Inspiration for the Week Give yourself a fast from negative thoughts about yourself. by Shanta Gabriel
Inspiration for the Week
Give yourself a fast from negative thoughts about yourself.
by Shanta Gabriel
- June 9, 2014 in Inspiration, Interesting Times, Personal Stories
We are drawing on the compassionate and timeless wisdom of The Gabriel Messages to provide insight and inspiration that we can apply every day to our busy lives.
For this week’s issue we are being reminded about the importance of treating ourselves with love and compassion.
The Gabriel Message card for this week
Give yourself a fast from negative thoughts about yourself.
This card always shows up at opportune moments when I notice I am being less than compassionate with myself. It is a very old habit. Somehow I took all the criticism I received growing up and heaped it on myself when I was away from home.
It appeared that I thought if I could really be relentless with myself it would somehow make me better. My ego kept me on a very short leash. I guess it wanted to make sure I toed some line that would ensure that I was doing “it correctly.” I felt that I was somehow flawed and my natural exuberance needed to be corralled. This made me live in a very contracted state, and of course I attracted people that would step right in and add more judgments in case I relaxed my vigilance.
It was during the millennium shift when I received a brilliant gift from the Universe disguised as the loss of everything I held dear. At that critical juncture I realized that if ever I needed compassion, this was the time. I also started giving myself more permission to be authentic and live in my truth. I noticed that when I would back off from my critical mind, my heart would open and I felt more love for all things — including myself. It was a new experience.
It is clear that if being very critical and hard on myself would “whip me into shape” I would have been enlightened long ago. What my spirit really needs is tenderness and support. It takes a different kind of vigilance to be aware of my habitual thoughts about myself and my world. Usually my feelings let me know. When I’m being hard on myself I feel awful. There’s the first clue. I go out of my way now to be as kind to myself as I am with others. Usually I am very kind to other people and give them the benefit of my love and compassion. This is what I need as well.
Sometimes I just put my hand on my heart when I notice my thinking has gone off the love track. That is the Quick Coherence Technique from HeartMath.org. That simple gesture brings me back into a loving place with myself and helps me attune to the One Heart within all beings. Just touching myself kindly in this way is also very soothing to my inner self, as well as my mammalian body.
Synchronicity was demonstrated just beautifully after I wrote the above paragraph. I went to my email and there from HeartMath was an article about the importance of self-love. When this happens, I love it. It helps me to know that I am in tune. Here is a portion of the article:
Self-love means being more compassionate, patient and accepting of ourselves. It means choosing to make self-care a priority. The idea of self-love might feel a bit awkward, but it is not selfish. It is necessary. As we get better at self-love we feel more confident and understand that self-love and loving others is simply a reflection of our deepest essence.
A little child thrives when she is adored and encouraged. This is also true of our inner spirit. We need to be our own greatest cheerleader and supporter in life. The steps we take to give ourselves the benefit of our love and reassurance will lift our vibrational frequency, making it even easier to feel love about ourselves and the world.
In these times when our vibrational frequencies quickly attract more of what we are thinking and feeling, it is exceptionally important to stay as loving with ourselves as possible. We need to keep our thoughts in alignment with the Divine Mind through awareness. Alignment with that vertical access to Source energy is key to being able to stay more conscious in daily life. From this place we can be more accepting of ourselves and allow the situations in our lives to unfold more gracefully.
It begins with our thoughts and our intention to stay in a loving, accepting place with ourselves. Sometimes it requires we be vigilant with our thoughts, but usually it is enough to be willing to give ourselves the compassion and kindness that we all truly deserve.
Know deeply that you are totally lovable and worthy of all that is good. Now let your heart receive love from the Source of all Life, from the Angels, and most of all, from yourself.
The Gabriel Messages #39Give Yourself a Fast from Negative Thoughts about Yourself.
Dear One,
You are being asked to give yourself a fast from negative thoughts about who you think you are. Nothing wears down your sense of self more than this type of negative thinking. It is debilitating in every way. Your thoughts are a good place to start in order to affect other areas of your life.
A fast is a time period in which you refrain from some activity. Most people are familiar with a food fast, which allows the digestive system a period of recovery. The same is true for a mental fast. It gives your mind time to recover so you can begin to see the truth in your life without judgment.
The judgmental mind is relentless, constantly seeking out inadequacies to bring them to your awareness. Although shining light into the dark corners of your mind is beneficial, bombarding yourself with negative thoughts, even if you believe them to be true, serves no good purpose.
Practice
So what can you do when such incessant thoughts begin in your mind — thoughts like “I should have done better,” “I can never do it right,” and other negative impressions of your personal character?
Go to God first. Ask to know the truth clearly within yourself. Call on the Angels to illuminate your mind with love and light. Ask for peace in your heart and then offer all your thoughts to the Divine Mind.
During your meditations and prayers, take time to visualize these as limiting thoughts you no longer need. Place them in a box and do something creative with them. Sink them to the bottom of the ocean. Send them to heaven in a colorful balloon, or explode them. Find an image that works for you and purposefully send the negative thoughts out of your conscious mind.
It is a law of nature that empty spaces become quickly filled, so remember to fill your now empty mind with light. Light is love energy from the Source of all Life. Light contains the seeds of truth and will stimulate loving thoughts. You can elaborate on this by imagining that your mind is a golden chalice being filled with God’s love.
Repeat this entire process as often as needed until you are no longer willing to tear yourself down and treat yourself unkindly. Instead, see yourself as you truly are — a beloved child of God; a spirit in human form; a clear vessel able to hold the highest possible level of truth; a beautiful, loving being shining love into the world.
You can also turn these statements of truth into affirmations or statements of “I AM” and they will become potent reminders, enabling you to strengthen your connection to your divine essence. There is great power in the words “I AM”. Be conscious of whatever you say next because you are making a definitive statement about yourself. You can substitute these or similar affirmations whenever you notice your mind engaged in negative self-talk. Here are some examples:
I am one with God. I am peaceful and loving. I am inspired with thoughts which serve my highest good. I am relaxed and at peace. I am enjoying an abundant lifestyle. I am offering all my work to the Divine Presence and I am fulfilled. I am surrounded and filled with Well-being. I am now empowered to live in harmony with myself.
Have these or other phrases ready to quickly turn to, as soon as you notice negative thoughts creeping in. Don’t worry if you don’t believe your words at first. This is just the resistance of old habits of thought and these habits can be changed.
Begin now to treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Remember that you are profoundly loved. Know that Angels embrace you in wings of pure light and see you as a beautiful, radiant spirit here to bring love to the world.
This is the truth of who you really are, so please remember your guidance for today:
Give yourself a fast from negative thoughts about yourself.
Shanta Gabriel, 2014
www.TheGabrielMessages.com
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