Thanks to Body Mind Soul Spirit
Some people think of “being alone” as a bad thing. It either means
you’re anti-social, or unwanted, neither of which are a good position to
be in.
But actually, being alone isn’t’ necessarily a bad thing, as there
are a handful of benefits that emerge once you learn to embrace
solitude.
I’m not advocating you go all Tom Hanks in
Cast Away
, because no one can argue the benefits, and the joys, that come along with fulfilling
relationships with other people.
But I am saying that once you learn to enjoy being alone, you’re going to grow as a person.
Below are ten amazing things that will happen in your life when you start to enjoy being alone.
1. You’ll get to recharge.
Often times when we’re surrounded by other people, we’re expending a
lot of energy. Trying to keep others happy, make them laugh, soothe
their egos, read their emotions, and all of the other rigors that come
along with regular interaction.
It can be mentally draining if you’re constantly connected to other
people. A little alone time lets you recharge and take a break from the
emotionally and mentally taxing job of constant interaction.
2. You’ll reflect more often.
Your life is always moving at a crazy fast pace. So fast in fact,
that it’s probably rare when you have a moment alone to sit and reflect
on your life.
Being alone gives you the perfect opportunity for a little self
reflection. Since you aren’t spending so much time processing the
thoughts and feelings of others, it’s the best time to turn your focus
inwards.
Solitude provides the perfect environment for reflection.
3. You’ll get in touch with your own emotions.
Again, when you’re surrounded by other people all the time, you’re constantly trying to read, and cater to, the other persons’s
emotions. So much so, that you could end up losing touch with your own.
When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll gain a greater
perspective for your own emotions. You’ll create a deeper understanding
of what makes you happy, what upsets you, and what saddens you.
With that knowledge, it’s then easier to regulate your emotions. But
it all starts with understanding how you feel, and that comes from a
little bit of
solitude.
4. You’ll start doing things you actually enjoy.
When you’re constantly in the company of other people, you’re always
making compromises in order to find solutions that the entire group can
enjoy. And unfortunately, the things
you want most, may not always line up with what the
group wants.
So it’s easy to enjoy being alone once you realize that doing so gives you more freedom to do the things
you actually want to do.
5. You’ll become more productive.
Being in the company of other people can be fun and entertaining, but
it can also seriously affect your productivity. There are times when
the company of other people acts as nothing more than a distraction from
getting your work done.
Time spent alone can be some of the most productive time in your
life—mostly because there are less distractions, and you can just put
your head down and get to work.
6. You’ll enjoy your relationships even more.
When you spend time alone on a regular basis, and eventually start to
enjoy being alone, you’ll come to find that you also enjoy your
relationships with other people even more.
And that’s because the time spent alone gives you a greater appreciation for yourself.
But it also let’s you appreciate all the great things that come from your
relationships with other people, most of which you were oblivious to before.
7. You’ll feel more independent.
Once you enjoy
being alone, you’ll feel more confident in your ability to actually be alone. And that naturally leads to you feeling more independent.
You’ll no longer feel that anxiety, or burning desire for company,
once you learn to enjoy being alone. You won’t feel the need for
constant interaction with other people, or the anxiety associated with
looking around and seeing no one but yourself.
8. You’ll get a break from constantly trying to keep other people happy.
Life is filled with relationships, and most relationships only last
when both people are kept happy. And that can turn into a draining job
depending who that relationship is with. Now, this doesn’t only apply to
personal relationships, but every kind of
relationship.
Once you’re alone, the only person’s happiness you have to worry
about in that moment, is your own. You can treat yourself to thing that
makes you happy, but may have upset someone else.
9. You won’t have to apologize for anything.
When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll quickly see that solitude
means you don’t have to keep apologizing for what you’ve done. So
often, we do things that end up upsetting other people, or hurting
someone else’s feelings, and then have to quickly apologize for it.
But when you’re alone, you don’t have to apologize for anything. And
that takes a lot of pressure out of most situations. You get to stop
second guessing everything you say, or every move you make because
you’re afraid someone is going to be offended, or saddened, and angered.
10. You’ll stop looking for validation.
So often we feel we the need to get the “OK” from our friends and
family before we take action. We constantly look to other people for
advice on what we should do next.
Of course, there are times where it’s not only perfectly acceptable
to ask for advice, but downright necessary. But there are also times
where we’re perfectly capable of acting on our own, be we instead of
looking to others for an answer.
When you start to spend more time alone, you’ll learn to trust your
instincts and make decisions without any third party validation.
https://openheartedrebel.com/2017/01/24/10-amazing-things-happen-when-you-learn-enjoy-being-alone/