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Showing posts with label Partnership. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Partnership. Show all posts
Saturday, September 28, 2019
DAYKEEPER'S ENERGY UPDATE WEEK OF SEPTEMBER 27-OCTOBER 3, 2019: RELATIONSHIP REALIGNMENT
Monday, February 12, 2018
NorthPoint Journal: Your guide to planetary energies for February 12 to 18, 2018 By Pam Younghans
and the Total Lunar Eclipse of January 31, 2018
(Astronomy Picture of the Day, copyright Wang Letian, Zhang Jiajie)
Highlighted Aspects this Week
MON: Mars sesquiquadrate Uranus, Mercury semisquare Saturn
TUE: Neptune square Vesta, Uranus sextile Juno, Mercury square Jupiter, Sun sextile Uranus
WED: Sun conjunct Juno, Venus semisquare Pluto
THU: Mercury sextile Uranus, Solar Eclipse/New Moon 1:05pm PST (9:05pm GMT),Venus sextile Saturn, Mercury conjunct Juno
SAT: Mars square Neptune, Sun conjunct Mercury, Mercury enters Pisces
SUN: Sun enters Pisces
THURSDAY'S partial
Solar Eclipse/New Moon is without doubt the focal point of the coming
week, and is also the highlight of the entire month of February. This is
a "South Node eclipse," meaning that the Sun and Moon are aligned with
the Moon's South Node. This type of eclipse marks a clear division
between the past and the future. It carries a strong sense of karmic
resolution and requires that we release attitudes and circumstances that
have been interfering with our evolutionary progress.
According to astrologer Judith Hall, a South Node eclipse represents "the out-tide of celestial energy," when forms and energy exit. It is a time to let go, accept, look inward, cleanse, and resolve. We may also feel less energized around the time of the eclipse, both physically and emotionally. To support yourself during this time, allow yourself extra time to rest and use tools from your metaphysical self-care kit to strengthen the light around you, while also being aware of ways and places you might tend to "leak" your energy.
THE ECLIPSE occurs when the Sun and Moon align at 27°07′ Aquarius on Thursday, February 15, at 1:05 p.m. PST (9:05 p.m. GMT). The lunation is closely conjunct the fixed star Gienah Cygni, activating its high-vibrational energies as a part of our eclipse experience.
Astrologer Roderick Kidston writes that there is a "strong spiritual dimension" to this fixed star, which sits on the edge of the south wing of Cygnus, the Swan:
"There's nothing weak about the refined energy of Gienah Cygni, quite the opposite, in fact. There is something dramatic here, sometimes magnificently showy. The high spiritual path is not for the wimpy or unprepared. When we move beyond the everyday and seek to connect with higher realms or truths, remarkable transformations are possible. Once we are ready and set we go, like the wind.”
Clearly, this Solar Eclipse has grand intentions for us! I think many of us can verify that this eclipse season has already brought about some dramatic manifestations. It's been hard not to get caught up in their impact on our mundane reality. But if Gienah Cygni is in charge of this process, then our challenge and our guidance is not to reside in the purely physical reasons or logical explanations, but to "move beyond the everyday and seek to connect with higher realms or truths." Perhaps then we will be "ready and set" for one of those "remarkable transformations" that we yearn for.
THE THEMES of communication and partnership are also strongly woven into the eclipse energies -- both Mercury and the asteroid Juno are within two degrees of the Sun and Moon at the time of the event.
In mythology, Juno is the Goddess of Marriage and was married to Jove (Jupiter). Astrologically, she brings forward issues of commitment in all its forms, whether interpersonal, business, or international. With Juno in Aquarius, she is especially concerned with equality and freedom in partnerships, and the rights of women who have been oppressed or abused.
Mercury is, of course, the Messenger to the Gods. In Aquarius, Mercury is the inventor, the bringer of progressive ideas, and the solution-finder. His involvement in the eclipse -- and his square to Jupiter on Tuesday -- may bring yet more surprising information forward, knowledge that alters how we perceive current situations. We must remember, however, that this is a South Node eclipse -- so there may be old, outdated concepts and thought patterns that we need to discard before we can fully avail ourselves of the insights and inspiration awaiting us.
URANUS is in close sextile aspect to the line-up of planets in Aquarius at the time of the eclipse. This indicates great opportunities for positive change, especially as we open our conscious minds (represented by Mercury) to information downloaded from our higher mind (represented by Uranus). This shift of consciousness is a choice and is not forced upon us -- but it is when we make the decision to change how we perceive "reality" that we can access the clearest solutions and best new directions.
Uranus is the planetary "ruler" of Aquarius, and its positive aspect to the Solar Eclipse reassures us that progress and change are occurring, even as we struggle with what feels like chaos along the way. This is when we most urgently need that Uranian higher-mind perspective.
Neale Donald Walsch reassures us, "Everything is falling together perfectly, even though it looks as if some things are falling apart. Trust in the process you are now experiencing.”
With similar sentiment, Pema Chodron writes, “When everything falls apart and we feel uncertainty, disappointment, shock, embarrassment, what’s left is a mind that is clear, unbiased, and fresh.”
Good words to keep in mind with our South Node Solar Eclipse this week, and Gienah Cygni ready to assist in the process of transformation, a journey that always involves embracing uncertainty as old forms fall apart.
THE FEELING IN THE AIR shifts next weekend. We've been working with a lot of Aquarian energy recently, which manifests in a great deal of mental activity and often somewhat unsettled or unpredictable circumstances. But both Mercury and the Sun move into mystical Pisces over the weekend, joining Venus, Neptune, and Chiron already in the twelfth sign. This shift helps us move from so much reliance on using our minds to figure things out to a greater trust in the guidance received through our hearts.
We also have a Mars-Neptune square early on Saturday that challenges us to let go of the ego's need to be "right." We're likely to feel the effects of this aspect starting on Friday, when we may find we just don't have the energy to fight anymore, and we realize that it's time to find a new way to resolve our problems. This Neptunian process of release and surrender opens the door to the month of Pisces, during which we are encouraged to develop qualities of compassion and forgiveness and to beat our swords into plowshares.
IF YOUR BIRTHDAY IS THIS WEEK: This year contains within it the potentials for finding resolution with your past as a powerful step in opening to new and inspired beginnings. It may be difficult to maintain your usual objectivity, since you feel inordinately passionate about the issues you are trying to resolve -- but this is your opportunity to go deep and to fully purge your energy fields of the old emotions that have held you back. As you embrace this process, your healing is magnified and your transformation is enhanced.
In light,
Pam
http://www.northpointastrology.com/northpoint-journal.html
Copyright NorthPoint Astrology 2018. All rights reserved.
According to astrologer Judith Hall, a South Node eclipse represents "the out-tide of celestial energy," when forms and energy exit. It is a time to let go, accept, look inward, cleanse, and resolve. We may also feel less energized around the time of the eclipse, both physically and emotionally. To support yourself during this time, allow yourself extra time to rest and use tools from your metaphysical self-care kit to strengthen the light around you, while also being aware of ways and places you might tend to "leak" your energy.
THE ECLIPSE occurs when the Sun and Moon align at 27°07′ Aquarius on Thursday, February 15, at 1:05 p.m. PST (9:05 p.m. GMT). The lunation is closely conjunct the fixed star Gienah Cygni, activating its high-vibrational energies as a part of our eclipse experience.
Astrologer Roderick Kidston writes that there is a "strong spiritual dimension" to this fixed star, which sits on the edge of the south wing of Cygnus, the Swan:
"There's nothing weak about the refined energy of Gienah Cygni, quite the opposite, in fact. There is something dramatic here, sometimes magnificently showy. The high spiritual path is not for the wimpy or unprepared. When we move beyond the everyday and seek to connect with higher realms or truths, remarkable transformations are possible. Once we are ready and set we go, like the wind.”
Clearly, this Solar Eclipse has grand intentions for us! I think many of us can verify that this eclipse season has already brought about some dramatic manifestations. It's been hard not to get caught up in their impact on our mundane reality. But if Gienah Cygni is in charge of this process, then our challenge and our guidance is not to reside in the purely physical reasons or logical explanations, but to "move beyond the everyday and seek to connect with higher realms or truths." Perhaps then we will be "ready and set" for one of those "remarkable transformations" that we yearn for.
THE THEMES of communication and partnership are also strongly woven into the eclipse energies -- both Mercury and the asteroid Juno are within two degrees of the Sun and Moon at the time of the event.
In mythology, Juno is the Goddess of Marriage and was married to Jove (Jupiter). Astrologically, she brings forward issues of commitment in all its forms, whether interpersonal, business, or international. With Juno in Aquarius, she is especially concerned with equality and freedom in partnerships, and the rights of women who have been oppressed or abused.
Mercury is, of course, the Messenger to the Gods. In Aquarius, Mercury is the inventor, the bringer of progressive ideas, and the solution-finder. His involvement in the eclipse -- and his square to Jupiter on Tuesday -- may bring yet more surprising information forward, knowledge that alters how we perceive current situations. We must remember, however, that this is a South Node eclipse -- so there may be old, outdated concepts and thought patterns that we need to discard before we can fully avail ourselves of the insights and inspiration awaiting us.
URANUS is in close sextile aspect to the line-up of planets in Aquarius at the time of the eclipse. This indicates great opportunities for positive change, especially as we open our conscious minds (represented by Mercury) to information downloaded from our higher mind (represented by Uranus). This shift of consciousness is a choice and is not forced upon us -- but it is when we make the decision to change how we perceive "reality" that we can access the clearest solutions and best new directions.
Uranus is the planetary "ruler" of Aquarius, and its positive aspect to the Solar Eclipse reassures us that progress and change are occurring, even as we struggle with what feels like chaos along the way. This is when we most urgently need that Uranian higher-mind perspective.
Neale Donald Walsch reassures us, "Everything is falling together perfectly, even though it looks as if some things are falling apart. Trust in the process you are now experiencing.”
With similar sentiment, Pema Chodron writes, “When everything falls apart and we feel uncertainty, disappointment, shock, embarrassment, what’s left is a mind that is clear, unbiased, and fresh.”
Good words to keep in mind with our South Node Solar Eclipse this week, and Gienah Cygni ready to assist in the process of transformation, a journey that always involves embracing uncertainty as old forms fall apart.
THE FEELING IN THE AIR shifts next weekend. We've been working with a lot of Aquarian energy recently, which manifests in a great deal of mental activity and often somewhat unsettled or unpredictable circumstances. But both Mercury and the Sun move into mystical Pisces over the weekend, joining Venus, Neptune, and Chiron already in the twelfth sign. This shift helps us move from so much reliance on using our minds to figure things out to a greater trust in the guidance received through our hearts.
We also have a Mars-Neptune square early on Saturday that challenges us to let go of the ego's need to be "right." We're likely to feel the effects of this aspect starting on Friday, when we may find we just don't have the energy to fight anymore, and we realize that it's time to find a new way to resolve our problems. This Neptunian process of release and surrender opens the door to the month of Pisces, during which we are encouraged to develop qualities of compassion and forgiveness and to beat our swords into plowshares.
IF YOUR BIRTHDAY IS THIS WEEK: This year contains within it the potentials for finding resolution with your past as a powerful step in opening to new and inspired beginnings. It may be difficult to maintain your usual objectivity, since you feel inordinately passionate about the issues you are trying to resolve -- but this is your opportunity to go deep and to fully purge your energy fields of the old emotions that have held you back. As you embrace this process, your healing is magnified and your transformation is enhanced.
In light,
Pam
http://www.northpointastrology.com/northpoint-journal.html
Copyright NorthPoint Astrology 2018. All rights reserved.
Wednesday, July 20, 2016
Selacia : July Madness Tips - Full Moon Week Higher View
July Madness Tips - Full Moon Week Higher View
The
week of a Full Moon is when you want to have your discernment antenna
turned on “high alert.” Things tend to get amplified and regular life
dramas tend to be expanded upon. Also, the craziness of the world,
amplified beyond the usual, is impacting people on a personal level,
adding to the intensity people are feeling. These amplifications are not
really that unusual, but these are unusual times. Old norms often have
little application during these moments.
Full Moon in Capricorn
The Full Moon peaks July 19 as it sits in Capricorn. This particular cycle is stirring issues of mastering this physical reality. It is also catalyzing people to self-reflect on things like life foundation, balance, and expanding views on limitations. Another key thing about this cycle is that its impact is likely to be felt for more days than usual, in part because of how connected we all are and types of universal themes surfacing within the collective.
As I’ve been writing about on social media, the pace and extent of dramas is likely to accelerate even more now as we step into Tuesday’s Full Moon energy and a host of high-profile debates involving politics, culture, injustices, and how we live on this small planet. I’ve been suggesting that we walk gently and with love. Easier said than done, of course. Read on to find out what else each of us can do to navigate these energies.
Fluctuations: Focus, Energy, Time
One feature of this week is the potential for wide fluctuations. For example, between now and Thursday you may find yourself needing to pay extra attention and make extra effort to complete tasks. It may feel like time disappeared when you need to get things done. Your focus may dart all over the place. Don't take this personally - this is much more than you. Everyone is affected by the planetary dance of challenges along with the Full Moon. Breathe.
Self-Monitor Communications
Communications are amplified now. Be an example of heart-centered communications, doing your best to self-monitor words when you are emotional or just very passionate about something.
There’s lots of fiery energy in the air. Count to 10 before you respond to upsetting or unsettling events. Loved ones may act out of character, strangers may do strange things. Do your best to remain the calm voice of reason within your circles.
Feel you reached a breaking point with someone and strong words must be said no matter what? Current energies could be stirring some very passionate feelings, so factor that in before you make your declarations. Invite your wise self to guide you with optimal words, timings, and delivery. Sometimes journaling about your feelings or speaking them in the air when you are alone helps take the edge off - then you can say things in a more loving way.
Bigger Picture Positives
One way to find your calm zone more quickly now is to remember as unusual things are unfolding quickly that there is a larger picture to the world's remake. Much is happening behind the scenes and humanity's ascension is speeding up exponentially!
Yes, the drama you are seeing played out in the news is crazy and you don’t want to subject yourself to repeated replays of sound bites. However, avoid the temptation to numb the senses or purposefully tune out as we sit in some of the most challenging moments to be alive. Many things just won't make sense. Other things you may simply wish you didn't know about, they are so weird or horrible. Still, your wise self knows you must stay conscious and aware in order to benefit from the gifts of these times and to help others.
Be an example of the multidimensional self you are too. This means avoid black-and-white thinking and responses to dramas being played out on the world stage. As the tempo of weirdness is turned up this week, stay in your center so that you as a being can benefit. You are not here to simply watch a show or comment on what is being said. You are alive now in these particular moments to be an integral part of the planet’s awakening.
As a reminder, the outer world is not random but a reflection of the inner state of humanity. Use each round of craziness and whatever personal response you have to go within and discover what from any lifetime is being triggered so you can work on and clear this at a DNA level. Each time you address an issue in your DNA, you help your own awakening and assist in a healing of the collective. All of us carry old dysfunctional patterns from humanity’s long past. Each time we personally clear something that’s also in the collective, we add to the momentum of humanity’s ascension.
Friday – Weekend Good News
On Friday we have some good news! The Sun then moves into the sign of Leo for the coming month, and it can feel like the sun came out on a dark day - literally. Self-confidence may get a boost, and you may have more energy and stamina to get things done. This is a fortuitous time, therefore, to allow yourself and your gifts to shine and to use your creativity to break through what seemed impenetrable before!
On the weekend – even with the backdrop of continuing outer world combative vibes – we have some helpful cosmic energy supportive of teamwork, cooperation, partnerships, heart openings, and creative approaches. Use this foresight to enhance your life potentials and joy.
Spirit is always with you, helping you to make sense of your Earthly experience. Tune into this help regularly so that you can soar above the chaos and find comfort when nothing makes sense.
Full Moon in Capricorn
The Full Moon peaks July 19 as it sits in Capricorn. This particular cycle is stirring issues of mastering this physical reality. It is also catalyzing people to self-reflect on things like life foundation, balance, and expanding views on limitations. Another key thing about this cycle is that its impact is likely to be felt for more days than usual, in part because of how connected we all are and types of universal themes surfacing within the collective.
As I’ve been writing about on social media, the pace and extent of dramas is likely to accelerate even more now as we step into Tuesday’s Full Moon energy and a host of high-profile debates involving politics, culture, injustices, and how we live on this small planet. I’ve been suggesting that we walk gently and with love. Easier said than done, of course. Read on to find out what else each of us can do to navigate these energies.
Fluctuations: Focus, Energy, Time
One feature of this week is the potential for wide fluctuations. For example, between now and Thursday you may find yourself needing to pay extra attention and make extra effort to complete tasks. It may feel like time disappeared when you need to get things done. Your focus may dart all over the place. Don't take this personally - this is much more than you. Everyone is affected by the planetary dance of challenges along with the Full Moon. Breathe.
Self-Monitor Communications
Communications are amplified now. Be an example of heart-centered communications, doing your best to self-monitor words when you are emotional or just very passionate about something.
There’s lots of fiery energy in the air. Count to 10 before you respond to upsetting or unsettling events. Loved ones may act out of character, strangers may do strange things. Do your best to remain the calm voice of reason within your circles.
Feel you reached a breaking point with someone and strong words must be said no matter what? Current energies could be stirring some very passionate feelings, so factor that in before you make your declarations. Invite your wise self to guide you with optimal words, timings, and delivery. Sometimes journaling about your feelings or speaking them in the air when you are alone helps take the edge off - then you can say things in a more loving way.
Bigger Picture Positives
One way to find your calm zone more quickly now is to remember as unusual things are unfolding quickly that there is a larger picture to the world's remake. Much is happening behind the scenes and humanity's ascension is speeding up exponentially!
Yes, the drama you are seeing played out in the news is crazy and you don’t want to subject yourself to repeated replays of sound bites. However, avoid the temptation to numb the senses or purposefully tune out as we sit in some of the most challenging moments to be alive. Many things just won't make sense. Other things you may simply wish you didn't know about, they are so weird or horrible. Still, your wise self knows you must stay conscious and aware in order to benefit from the gifts of these times and to help others.
Be an example of the multidimensional self you are too. This means avoid black-and-white thinking and responses to dramas being played out on the world stage. As the tempo of weirdness is turned up this week, stay in your center so that you as a being can benefit. You are not here to simply watch a show or comment on what is being said. You are alive now in these particular moments to be an integral part of the planet’s awakening.
As a reminder, the outer world is not random but a reflection of the inner state of humanity. Use each round of craziness and whatever personal response you have to go within and discover what from any lifetime is being triggered so you can work on and clear this at a DNA level. Each time you address an issue in your DNA, you help your own awakening and assist in a healing of the collective. All of us carry old dysfunctional patterns from humanity’s long past. Each time we personally clear something that’s also in the collective, we add to the momentum of humanity’s ascension.
Friday – Weekend Good News
On Friday we have some good news! The Sun then moves into the sign of Leo for the coming month, and it can feel like the sun came out on a dark day - literally. Self-confidence may get a boost, and you may have more energy and stamina to get things done. This is a fortuitous time, therefore, to allow yourself and your gifts to shine and to use your creativity to break through what seemed impenetrable before!
On the weekend – even with the backdrop of continuing outer world combative vibes – we have some helpful cosmic energy supportive of teamwork, cooperation, partnerships, heart openings, and creative approaches. Use this foresight to enhance your life potentials and joy.
Spirit is always with you, helping you to make sense of your Earthly experience. Tune into this help regularly so that you can soar above the chaos and find comfort when nothing makes sense.
Copyright 2016 by Selacia - author of Earth’s Pivotal Years, healer, and teacher * All Rights Reserved * www.Selacia.com
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article text.
Friday, December 12, 2014
A Conscious Union – The Ultimate Relationship: 10 Reasons a Conscious Union is the Ultimate Relationship by Gina Hardy | OM Times
A Conscious Union – The Ultimate Relationship:
10 Reasons a Conscious Union is the Ultimate Relationship
by Gina Hardy | OM Times
In the past year I have endlessly blogged and chatted to radio hosts about the intricacies of intimate relationships from communication styles to self observation, with unending awe as I explore the certain mysteries of love and how it affects us all. There are heaps of experts and books out there written by amazing people way more qualified than me about the psychology and technical workings of relationships, but it is my calling to offer you help in this wonderland of life, so it got me wondering, as Grace had named my business Conscious Union, just what is a Conscious Union?
What has been emerging, as Conscious Union earns her place in the “New Earth” jigsaw, is a honing and fine tuning of ingredients that go to make up a conscious relationship and how it is the closest thing to “happily ever after” that we will ever see within our existing DNA structure! So let me take you on a journey around a conscious relationship. If you are in one already then I don my hat to you and say well done…you are helping to pioneer the new relationship paradigm for future generations who understand the meaning of authentic love. If you are in a relationship but wonder if it sizes up then read on. If you are single, this will give you the goal posts within which to aim high for your next relationship!
The recipe for a Conscious Union:
1. Two fully committed people who are willing to help each other heal and grow from the past.
Human beings are a complex set of cells with a huge range of needs and wants, even though some of us don’t say! From birth it is a near impossible task for any parent to meet the needs of their child 24/7 and to ensure their protection and safety from life, hence at some stage our childhood would have experienced a good few negative situations that may have become ingrained in our psyche and can stunt our childhood growth on the spot. Along comes our intimate relationships later in life which are fertile ground for healing from these ingrained experiences. But in order to heal, the wound needs to show itself and nothing quite like this kind of relationship, fires our need to look at these pain spots and allow them to surface and clear. Many people through lack of understanding of this occurring dynamic will assume that experiencing this kind of pain means “oh no my relationship is on the rocks” or “he/she is so not right for me” when in fact your partner is your directional arrow to what you need to look at together. This is the key ingredient in conscious love. It takes time, oodles of patience, compassion and willingness to stay open to whatever comes each day.
2. Two people who encourage full authenticity to be re-born in each other.
Love and approval is the human blueprint for life but from birth to now many of us lose the essence of our original nature by doing what we feel we need to do to be loved. Love and safety are life saving as children, without them the feeling is one of death and the motivating emotions that keep us as far away as possible from this fear, keep us chained in a symbiotic dance between trying to be loved and our drive to be authentic. Imago call our adolescent self the “fragmented” self because we have evolved disowning and denying parts of our full humanness in order to be approved of. Children see their parents as role models for life and no matter how “wounded” our parents and their parents before them, we believe that to not express anger or to “be seen and heard” etc. is the right way to be and so we endlessly try to be good little beings and then we’ll be loved…right?! Sadly not, but like mice on a wheel we are programmed to press the “please love me” button over and again. Deep down however in the engine room of our being is the constant reminder, as Grace nudges us that we are here to be authentic. Our relationships are a fertile ground for re-entry into authenticity. Conscious relationships positively encourage it! How? Well we must provide the safety and comfort for each other at all times to allow the emergence of wholeness. It takes a lot of time, encouragement and commitment…have you got what it takes?
3. Two people who are self aware and willing to take responsibility for every action and input into the relationship.
Sadly many people have the unconscious view that everything their partner does is either right or wrong and the focus is outside of themselves. They transmit feelings and emotions ad hoc without due care of the relationship with a one way focus. When all is going great it’s easy but when conflict strikes all hell often breaks loose as the victim and perpetrator archetypes play out their next scene. “She is never interested in sex not matter what I do….he never listens to me and never bothers to understand my point of view” There are many war cries but a war has two sides and one can’t war if the other isn’t engaged. A conscious relationship always asks “what am I doing to create this situation and what can I do to help it get better?” Blaming and shaming is like an 80’s haircut…it’s old and outmoded! Self awareness for me IS consciousness. We are constantly aware of the world around us but we randomly select what we do and don’t put our awareness on. I see people in their twilight years who have never chosen self awareness and everyone around them is either too scared to tell them what they need to look at or are worn out from trying. A sad situation and like a diseased cell in the human body! Be self aware…it’s a revelation and a miracle all at once. Someone once said to me “the journey of yourself is the most rewarding one you will ever take”, so why spend all the time looking out the window?
4. Two people willing to change unhelpful behaviors.
All of our relationships are our mirrors. The way people react to us is a huge directional arrow to where we are at with our behavior. If we act like a badly behaved child and speak in venomous tones to people then what are we expecting? My mum always says, “put yourself in the other person’s shoes and imagine how you would feel”. Ancient but sound advice. In your relationship you do need to understand and get a grip of bad behavior. Change is required. It’s common sense really, otherwise your relationship suffers constant erosion. My father was compelled to behave badly in his marriage to mum and the effects are a book load of sad stories. So unnecessary.
5. Two people who use kind communication verbally and physically and who can navigate the waters of conflict with ease.
Communication is the life blood of every relationship, period! It is absolutely possible to become authentic and say what you really need to say with kind words and body language. The problems start when people are triggered during an argument and often at lightning speed and reacting badly has become the pattern. It’s here that full reigns on how we act must be deployed. I was a fine one for shooting my mouth off if I was pissed off with my partner but reacting with bad words and behavior is so much harder work! More common sense really! I teach the Intentional Dialogue tool as a great way to find a calm platform for conscious communication. Please contact me and I will help you learn it.
6. Two people who are educated about relationship dynamics.
Do you know about the distinct phases of a relationship and what’s happening in your body during the honeymoon and conflict stages? Are you aware that you choose partners who are designed to bring up your stuff so you can look at it from the past? What conflict style do you take and how does that affect your partner? Are you aware of your relationship space? These and many more things are the important resources of information that must be read and digested in your conscious relationship library. This information was instrumental in my own awakening. Never before had I understood that I knew so little about what goes on in relationships and by just by being in one didn’t give me the insight. This forms the essence of my work with couples and singles who seek conscious relationships. Contact me to see how I can help you learn this valuable information.
7. Two people who strive to maintain connection through all relationship weathers.
We can all do a great relationships when its’ going well but bad emotional weather will strike at sometime in everyone’s lives because life is always happening as we walk our path together. Life is designed to ebb and flow with the cycles of the Universe and a conscious relationship knows that when things ebb, relationship connection is paramount. It is easy to let life sweep us apart and to be too busy to talk or spend quality time together, but the velvet nature of connection is an elixir. Yes it takes effort but next time you feel like ignoring the relationship because you are too shattered to speak…take a moment to do something appreciative…even if it’s a little note or an “I love you”. Connection is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
8. Two people who are dedicated to allowing the otherness in each other with freedom to grow separately and together.
Unconscious relationships control and dominate. Conscious relationships know that each person was born separate and “other” and their ultimate goal is to be separately connected not symbiotically connected. Need prevents freedom. Love encourages freedom. But here’s where we come unstuck at this stage in our conscious awakening. I believe intimate relationships are still conditional to hugely varying degrees and so freedom varies accordingly. Allowing freedom to “be and become” is a sore spot for many because there is so much fear about losing love once we are in love. We plant labels like “my girlfriend, my husband” etc. which suggests ownership of the other. Unconscious rules start to develop about what each person should do or not to do in the relationship and a stifle can begin to develop. This part of the conscious relationship recipe, I think, is the toughest, but with tender loving care blended with all of the above we can and will get there!
9. Two people who housekeep their relationship space regularly and are vigilant about nurturing it’s quality.
Hedy Schliefer always refers to the relational space between a couple and helps them focus on it as the barometer for relationship health. Like a walled Garden of Eden, where the children and the animals live, it’s space and quality and energy are critical to the health of a conscious couple. We communicate largely with energy. Have you ever walked into a room and could cut the atmosphere with a knife? Energy always speaks the truth but often underlies the words and actions in a relationship. The conscious couple strives to maintain a peaceful and happy relationship space so the energetic truth matches the spoken words.
10. Two people who know that it is what they give to the relationship rather than what they take from it, that helps them heal and grow.
Healing and growth, as I mentioned earlier, is a game for two. You can do all the self development you like but your intimate relationship will trawl up all your unhealed fears, worries and pain from the past. It is designed to do this! Conscious relationships know that it is their job to help the other heal and grow not to take what “I need”. This sets up a beautiful cycle of mutual giving and nurturing which dispels any need to “get my needs met”. Trust me it works…I am living proof. What I have with my beloved is a fertile ground of healing and growth every day. So there you have it. The essential ingredients for a Conscious Union. The only way to love and be loved in these changing times. Open your eyes and look back down the road that you have come from and know that you are fully deserving every day to have a conscious relationship. No matter who you are or what you have experienced you have what it takes to create one. With a dash of self awareness and a tablespoon of willingness to change what needs to be changed, you too can learn to love authentically.
About the Author
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